We’ve all been there for that “he said, she said” situation or a major disagreement with a friend, significant other, or classmate. Dealing with these problems that come up in everyday life can be hard to do in a mature, grown up way, but learning to do so can benefit you in many ways. These seven tips could save a relationship, or a reputation.
- Don’t be afraid to be the bigger person
Everyone always wants to push the blame onto someone else, but that easy way out can create deeper problems later on. Don’t be afraid to initiate the conversation because bottling up your feelings and not saying what’s on your mind can be even more hurtful, and make the other person lose trust in you.
- Don’t spread it
It’s common to want to run to your best friend, but sometimes keeping it inside the circle of people involved is the best bet. Refraining from spreading the drama also allows details to not get messed up which could start rumors.
- Confront them as the problem arises
Solving the problem while it is fresh in your mind allows you to ensure you have all of your details accurate. It can also stop the rumors before they start and it eliminates long term stress that comes with drama.
- Attempt to talk to them in person
If you’re unable to talk in person, try to call them. Avoid texting because it can be hard to read emotion and tone over text, which can cause things to be misinterpreted. Avoid bringing up small things that are unrelated to the problem that arose as that will worsen the situation in many cases.
- It’s ok to say you need space
After having a conversation, it is ok to say you need space and take a couple days to think about the conversation and situation, then revisit it. Sometimes taking space does more good because it allows you to cool down, especially if you get angry easily.
- Ask an adult for advice
If you are at a total loss and don’t know what to do, ask an adult for advice. Oftentimes there is an adult in your life that has been through a similar issue that you have. Adults are a trusted outside source that you most of the time can trust not to tell your peers.
- You can’t work every problem out
Sometimes you just can’t work the problem out and as a last resort ending the relationship is the only way to go. Not every relationship lasts and sometimes it will benefit both sides to go your separate ways and build new bonds.
